I am only in the Chapter 4 of the on-line class on the Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose with Oprah. I am taking this slowly since most of what I know and believe are in contrary to what the book is teaching. But so far, I thought the teachings in the book are not divisive in matters of faith and religion. Basically, we already have these knowledge of what the book is talking about..we just have to be ‘awakened’ or be enlivened in our human life for which purpose the book was written. Some are ready to accept these teachings because they are totally ready while most others are still resistant which brings me to quote Eckhart as follows:
“…the shift can only happen inside you. So not to expect other people to also change or to expect or say, “I cannot change unless somebody close to me also changes.” The main thing is to take responsible for your own state of consciousness and allow other people, especially people that you are close to, to be where they are, not to demand that because something is happening inside you and you’re beginning to change, not to demand that others should also change. Change does not come about in others by trying to make them change. The most powerful way of bringing about change in others is not trying to bring about change in the other but to completely accept the other as he or she is. So that is absolutely vital. There are even schools of psychotherapy that recognize that. So you give the other person, complete acceptance. And that part of this change that’s happening in us is that we
step out of the judgmental mind that continuously judges the other. So we step out of that, and if we step out of the judgmental mind, we’re able to simply accept the partner, close friend, the family member, a relative. This is where they are at right now. They are still going for their old behavior patterns…What has changed is you are no longer resisting their pattern and reacting to, and by reacting reinforcing their pattern.”
I am guilty of the ‘judgmental mind’ so much so that it had me awake most of last night. I guess the magic word in Eckhart’s discourse is acceptance. And I believe it is not indifference when you are not doing something to bring about the needed change to someone or something or to yourself.
“And don’t mistake what you’re observing, the behavior that people manifest…that’s not who they are.”
And this brought me to again remember that things are not always what they seem to be.